How to be Responsible ? ✏️
- Jona Agolli
- Jan 25, 2023
- 4 min read
Updated: Feb 23, 2023
This is a little story about four people named
Everybody. Somebody. Anybody, and Nobody.
There was an important job to be done and
Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it.
Anybody could have done it
but Nobody did it.
Somebody got angry about that
because it was Everybody's job.
Everybody thought that Anybody could do it,
but Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn't do it.
It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody
when Nobody did what Anybody could have done.
Charles Osgood's "The Responsibility Poem"
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Think about this little story every time you start procrastinating on a decision based on - "someone else can do something better" or "is already doing it so you do not need to take that action".
No one can do it the way you would because no one has the story you have.
Switch the story of your beliefs and start building up another one, based on a new belief.
RESPONSE - ABILITY
➡️ Are you response-able ?
Can you step between that stimulus and response and choose the most empowered response ?
Or at least a much less crappy one?
Can you ?
Pay attention the next time you feel yourself being triggered and see if you can sneak into that little space of responsibility.
It starts with you ...
“Come on, get over it, stop being a victim, this is not the time to let go, go on, that’s enough, move on, be strong, ...”
I think this speech exists in many of us.
This speech exists in many of us but sometimes when life comes and challenges us - it is not enough and we start feeling not enough, we start feeling guilty.
Guilty, but unable to make that move.
Guilty but unable to make that decision.
Guilty yet, still.
(...) Still, in the same place.
Still, in that feeling of wanting to press the accelerator and brake at the same time.
➡️ It starts with you and your self-discovery.
Once you start understanding your patterns and beliefs, you start feeling that compassion towards yourself (and others).
You start then realizing why you did not make that move so far ...
You start then realizing how your mind was trying to protect you from a wound you've experienced unconsciously by not taking an action that would take you out of that comfort zone.
You start then accepting that ego and cooperating with it.
You start then integrating instead of rejecting.
And from that place of acceptance comes creation.
From that place of understanding comes that decision making.
A decision from your heart. A promise that will last.
It all comes from your inner - world.
Without that knowledge you cannot understand and without understanding you will not take actions and stay committed.
It has to start with your state of mind.
That state of mind is fueled by the story you are telling to yourself every single day without even noticing it.
If you have no compassion and understanding about you, how can you support and assist yourself in achieving your goals ?
WHEN was the last time you did you learn something about yourself ?
How did it help you move forward in a given situation ?
In which circumstances do you decide to know a bit more about yourself and via which tools?
Feel free to share with me in comments and / or to write me at : info@ehfarlife.com
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Porto-Santo 2023.
Pic of the beach 100m from our place.
We go on this precise place every day for a sunrise swim and /or a sunset swim after work.
It is January and the locals look at us shocked & amused - because for them the water is way to cold.
IT IS NOT... Well, I've been living in Ireland for 4 years so maybe it helps and as for my partner; it's another story - nothing stops him :)
He is an example for me. I admire how involved & passionate he is in everything he undertakes and that pushes me forward too.
(Shuuuut, do not tell anyone :p)
I enjoy SO MUCH that feeling of freedom.
The strength of the ocean inspires me a lot as well and the colors fill my heart with gratitude and joy. May all our dreams become projects !
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